When Is It Okay to be Selfish

The word ‘selfish’ has a negative connotation. People are expected to do for others more than they do for themselves; however, continuing in this way is harmful because it allows an excuse for people to neglect their own needs. Here are 5 times when it is okay to be selfish.

When it comes to your health

It is always okay to be selfish when it comes to your health, physically and mentally. It is alright to take a mental health day when you need it. Because of the increasing cost of living, Americans often work all day and night to support themselves and their families. While this is admirable, it can take a toll on your health. Remember to breath and take a break when needed.

In the bedroom

It is human nature to satisfy your sexual needs. I’m not saying that you must only think about satisfying yourself and forget about your partner’s needs, but it is important to communicate. If your partner is not pleasing you, make it known and talk through it. If it still isn’t working, it is definitely okay to be selfish and stop the intercourse. Don’t feel bad about hurting anyone’s feelings.

When it comes to your wardrobe

Once upon a time, I was dating a man who did not like the way I dressed. He said my shorts were too short and my tops were too tight, so he changed my whole wardrobe and bought all my clothes. I let this behavior continue for over a year before I finally said, “no more.” It is not up to a man what we wear as women. A woman is not a slut because she shows some skin. A woman is not a prude because she covers her arms and ankles. Be selfish with your wardrobe and wear whatever you want!

In your career

Be selfish in your career to get where you want to be. Don’t worry about stepping on other people’s toes. Do you and your work best friend want the same promotion? Work harder than him/her and congratulate each other later. Don’t agree to let them have the promotion. Be a monster in your career because it is your right!

For your family

When it comes to your family, being selfish is necessary. If you are stranded on an island with your family and two other families, your family’s well being comes first. All morals go out the window. It is your duty to protect what’s yours. I know it sounds evil, but you will understand if you’re ever caught in a difficult situation. Think of The Purge.

Doing for others is a wonderful thing. It creates a sufficient society. Just remember to take care of yourself as well.


  1. Thank for a great reminder. My wife is a very giving person, and often ignores her own problems and needs, because she says says she doesn’t want to be selfish. I’ll have her read your post. Thanks again, and take care.


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